I've been into relationships since I was in 10th grade. I don't know much but I considered all my relationships' serious. Well, I've never been with many boys or men either, I just had 3 to be exact.
Attitudes of men vary, so as how the relationship goes. The past relationships I had was so so. Like, just friends... and you know, just that I'm his girlfriend when we're together. (HAHA! Got the point?) My present is way different from the other 2 I had. And this lead me to the title of this blog. (TADAAAA! hahaha)
Perks of Having a Clingy Boyfriend
The title says it all but who says having a clingy boyfriend is bad? Well, you gotta think again when you're done reading. :)
#1 He asks you stupid things about your past.
Typically, asking about each others past is normal. BUT WAIT! What about him asking questions way below the belt? Doesn't it feel odd? Like, literally "ODD"??? HAHA! Ladies, come to think of it. Why does the past matters to him so much? Like, Hey dude! Why make it a big deal? The past is in the past. Like HELLO!!! It does not matter anymore. Grow up! Men don't think like ladies and ladies are more mature. So why do they make it a big deal? Simple. Their insecurities grow and they fear that your past is way good enough than him. So what to do then? Make him feel secured and make him understand that if the past did matter to you and that the past is way good enough then you wouldn't be with him right now in the first place.
When I say everything, it's EVERYTHING! From your photo albums to all your social media accounts ---- Gmail, Yahoomail, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc. He does not want to see any spec about your past. I know what you're thinking. "Hey! That's too much. I don't want to do that. That's a waste of time." Chill. If you want to keep him then you have to spend time on doing such. It does not hurt you. It just takes a lot of your time, though. He just don't want you to reminisce or even remember a single thing about your past that would lead you to comparing him to the ones you had before. Men get jealous easily than us, ladies. They just don't tell, but if you know your man well then, I bet you'll be able to see it.
#3 He always wants to feel secured.
Exchanging I love you's is sweet. Him randomly saying I love you is sweeter. Then you start saying random I love you's and he does not reply and start to doubt if what you are saying is true. Does it hurt, doesn't it? IT DOES! Then you start nagging and start to fight. What good does it bring then? Ladies, men like this just wants to feel secured. Like us, they also have issues, insecurities and jealousy running through their veins. So instead of feeling sad, disappointed or hurt because of his doubts, why not embrace the fact that he just wants assurance every now and then and make him feel such? It does not hurt you, right? Rather, it will lead you to a good and stronger relationship. It's just a sign that he does not want you out of his life.
#4 He does not want you to go near random men.
Deal with it. It often feels like he just want you for himself. Like, ugh! This is too much. I have friends. What do I have to do with them, then? Ladies, men tends to overthink a lot than us. True. He does not want you to go near random men, but he does not want you to lose your friends neither. Just learn to balance. In the end, it's still about you and him.
Wait? Then where's the "perks" here then? Clearly, my points are like the opposite of what I'm supposed to mean but if you look closer and try to comprehend harder, the perks are already there, clear enough for you to see and ponder on.
Ladies, men are more complicated than us. They are mysterious and secretive. Having a clingy boyfriend isn't that bad if you try to stop looking on the obvious. Learn to know his reasons. Learn to see what he really means. Learn to know how he deals with you indirectly. And learn to appreciate what he does. Being clingy is sweet if you try to look on the other side of it. It is a way for him to make you feel that he loves you a lot and that he does not want you out of his life. Him being clingy and you being not isn't bad either, but sometimes it makes you feel unfair. Well, that's how it goes. Learn to deal with his "clingyness" (if that's even a word) and you'll feel his great love for you.
#4 He does not want you to go near random men.
Deal with it. It often feels like he just want you for himself. Like, ugh! This is too much. I have friends. What do I have to do with them, then? Ladies, men tends to overthink a lot than us. True. He does not want you to go near random men, but he does not want you to lose your friends neither. Just learn to balance. In the end, it's still about you and him.
Wait? Then where's the "perks" here then? Clearly, my points are like the opposite of what I'm supposed to mean but if you look closer and try to comprehend harder, the perks are already there, clear enough for you to see and ponder on.
Ladies, men are more complicated than us. They are mysterious and secretive. Having a clingy boyfriend isn't that bad if you try to stop looking on the obvious. Learn to know his reasons. Learn to see what he really means. Learn to know how he deals with you indirectly. And learn to appreciate what he does. Being clingy is sweet if you try to look on the other side of it. It is a way for him to make you feel that he loves you a lot and that he does not want you out of his life. Him being clingy and you being not isn't bad either, but sometimes it makes you feel unfair. Well, that's how it goes. Learn to deal with his "clingyness" (if that's even a word) and you'll feel his great love for you.
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